Wonderful Nikki. That last line is killer! But you also raise an interesting issue. What contitutes being gay? If I want to be kissed and held by a man but not have sex, am I gay? If I am emotionally but no sexually attracted to men, am I gay? And what of the reverse? Can it be a purely sexual thing and not be gay? I call myself bisexual because I am sexually attracted to men while sexually and emotionally attracted to women. But having made such a transition, I think she may be in a bit of denial!
I've wondered about that as well. It's difficult to articulate. I can easily imagine a situation where a man has absolutely no interest in an emotional relationship with another man, but who is attracted to the physical act of sex. Or a woman with a woman. Sure, under the technical definition, that person is homosexual. But there's a huge gray area there.
In US culture, we usually base sexuality on who you have sex with. Other cultures separate sex and sexuality. Casual sex does not determine sexuality in those cultures, rather who you choose to have a long term relationship with. In many ways this make a lot more sense than deciding someone is gay because they had sex with one man after a lifetime of sex and relationships with women. I tend to view sexuality as where your heart is at more than where your libido is, but I always have been one to bend or break the rules!
if you have basically been transformed into a female, how can having sex with men be gay?
Because, in his mind, he's still male - albeit one who has made some striking compromises in appearance to get his way.