Monday, June 27, 2016

TG Caption - Bathrooms

For many of us, the simple act of going through everyday life can be a maze of weird social interactions, discrimination, and rude people.  It's difficult enough, as it is.  But with the passage (and attempted passage of similar laws) of the North Carolina bathroom law, everything just got more difficult because the law itself implies that your gender is simply not valid unless it matches your genitals.  If you have a penis, you're a boy.  A vagina, a girl.  It's practically medieval binary thinking, and in this day and age, a huge disappointment.  

So, predictably, I think the law is ridiculous.  But that's not what this little aside is about.  No.  While writing this caption, I started to think about the first time I ever used a women's bathroom.  I'm not going to pretend that it was some cathartic experience or anything.  It wasn't.  For me, it was one of the most nerve-wracking experiences of my life (up 'til then).  I was terrified that someone would "find me out" or that someone would recognize me.  It was a necessary, but very difficult, step for me, putting myself out there like I was any other woman just going about her business.  

As it turned out, the bathroom was empty, and I'd been worried for no reason.  But that's not what's important here.  That's not the point.  Thinking back to my mindset that day, I can tell you unequivocally that I simply wouldn't have done it if I'd been confronted with an actual law forbidding my using that women's restroom.  It would have been the last straw, you know?  My nerves were frayed enough as it was; adding actual illegality to the mix would have unraveled them completely.  

Where would I be now, if I hadn't taken that step?  Would I have eventually done it anyway?  Probably.  But maybe not.  Maybe I'd have grown into a completely different person, ashamed of who I was, and living my life in the shadows of societal expectation.  I don't know.  But it certainly wouldn't have made things any easier for someone going through an already-difficult time.

I just thought I'd share that with you all.  Here's today's caption: